This, is the number one thing I am tired of falsely reading and MUST debunk: lifting will make you "huge", "bulky", "manly"..no, No it will not. Firstly, women have MUCH LESS testosterone than men do. It is not possible (unless a woman chooses to uses steroids, since that will up your testosterone levels) to get as "bulky" looking as men do when lifting heavy (granted, even from what I have learned, read, and seen myself...even men don't get as "stereotypically" bulky as society makes them out to be from lifting; which brings up another point:
Your "size" or "bulk" with lifting will largely vary from person to person
As we have all learned, since we were all young kids: there are lots of different and varied body types. Not many people will have that exact same body type even if their bodies look identical. Makes sense right? So WHY on God's green earth do people seem to not think this same basic principle applies when it comes to lifting weights? Yes, I may be lifting the same 25-30 pound free weight as "Sally" and "Max" next to me, but all three of us are NOT going to have the same long term end-results as one another. And this is due to some factors such as: bone density, base muscle mass, doing the exercise in its proper form (yes, doing it wrong is NOT only dangerous, but will give you at best different results), testosterone levels, metabolism differences, and so forth. This means: some people, weight lifting will make them look more cut and defined, while others can have a more "bulky" appearance (which again, if anything "bulky" is something that happens much more with men due to higher testosterone).
Women need to be "dainty"
So...lets touch base on this for a moment. Even I have some friends and family whom try to steer me away from "heavy lifting" because I'll end up looking "too masculine". Now, the kicker is..I have been weight lifting heavy for about..two years now I would guess? And I'm still waiting for my apparent "bulk" that I was supposed to get two years ago to happen. Am I more cut and more defined? Absolutely! And I love that, but I am very far from "bulky". In fact, my google plus account has a before/after photo comparison. The one where I am wearing the red shirt is the most recent/after photo. I look more defined and cut, which is perfectly acceptable for myself. I personally love the idea, and am striving to be, not only a mentally strong, but a physically strong woman as well. Yes, I have a fiancé...love him dearly. But in the same respect I'm an INCREDIBLY independent woman. I do not want to have to rely on him for money, my own self respect/worth, and for protection. that last piece, I feel for all of us women is so key. I do try to stay positive in all aspects of life, HOWEVER, unfortunately, this world is becoming slowly and gradually, a more violent and scary place to live in (and again, there are a lot of positives in life, in nature, with our earth...but most forms of crime increasing, is an unfortunate fact at the moment (side note: if anyone wants me to pull up any figures on this, I most certainly know, because I know I have learned and read this from several sources, just cannot think of them of the top of my head). And since I am independent and work, I would estimate that at least 12 out of the 24 hours in the day, I am by myself (with work, working out, running errands, and so on). I want to be able to fend for myself if some creep tries to come up to me for God only knows what reason. I am proud to tell others that I know how to use something as simple as my keys as a weapon if I need to, that I know self defense, how to throw a punch/kick, and that I am an avid weight lifter. I am not afraid to defend myself if need be because I have enough self respect within myself to have given myself these tools and to know there's nothing wrong with having these tools. And finally, ladies, I have to point this fact out:
If he loves you, he will stay with you, no matter what your hobbies may be
Some women say they won't do heavy weight lifting because their "man won't like it" or "how it makes them look". Firstly, it may sound selfish but if you take time to think about it...it's really not, but: YOU GOT TO DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY FIRST. And here's why: if you are not doing what you love because of a man (or anyone else for that matter) you WILL not internally be a happy person. And if you are not a happy person, that negative energy WILL radiate onto others, even if you are not trying to...it will happen. So as odd as it sounds that is why you got to be selfish and do what you love no matter what anyone, and I mean ANYONE tells you, because if not then you will end up having a miserable and negative attitude towards others, because an important chunk of you WILL BE MISSING. And honestly ladies, if a man is going to leave you just because you want to heavy weight lift...he probably was not a good choice to begin with. Any man whom tries controlling anything about his girlfriend (which yes, most certainly includes hobbies) is NOT a man at all. If he is doing that, he is either insecure within himself, is power hungry, a potential abuser in any form (mental, emotional, physical), and/or all or a mix of the three.
STAY INSPIRED!!
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